thelittlequirks asked: LOL I DO NOT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING THAT YOUR INTRO SAYS... except for "you may call me Kavana-Sama". Thought about doing literature?

Haha. I did literature. It was fun. 

But unfortunately those are not my words. They’re from V For Vendetta. 

The movie, not the comic. 

Observations from having to wait an hour at Charlestown today:

ryanlittlejohns:

• Everybody who worked at Sumo Salad was fat.
• Shops are now charging $20 more for chino’s that are ‘pre-cuffed’ cause it’s heaps hard to roll up your pants.
• The people who try and sell you the gym memberships used the escalators and not the stairs.

Current stream of consciousness. Joint blogging #1

So me and a very close friend have agreed to spark a new passion for writing. We have both recently finished school and thought we would do something to keep our minds alert, active and working. Discussng a topic throughout the week and blogging it before weeks end.
So here it is, the beginning of something beautiful.
Joint topic blogging from the perspective’s of pseudonyms KavanaSama and SBMay

Topic número uno :
Relationships, dating, marriage and sex.
With heavy influence from Christianity (cliché as it may be)

I’ll start with a pretty controversial first statement which I will elaborate on later in the post.
I believe that Non-Christians have a more genuine marriage than some Christians.
Not saying all, not generalizing anything. Just a thought that popped into my head after a mass pondering session.

Why do people go looking for relationships? Why do people want relationships? What is with the world’s obsessive need for a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Recently I was chatting to my best friend, just normal conversation, going through topics like cans of coke. This topic plucked a tender heart string in me, being almost entirely negative and pessimistic of the area, our fun conversation turned into a one way rant.
It started with me saying I want a girlfriend but, being the pessimist that I am, I started to question really why I wanted one.
What can I get out of a relationship or girlfriend that I can’t get out of a friendship or best friend?
Is it someone to share life experiences with? Nope, I share my life experiences with my mates. I tell them old tales of when I was young(er). I share, create and reminisce on memories with my mates.
Is it someone to confide in, to trust with my deepest, darkest secrets? Nope, my closest mates know all of my secrets. Sure they could burn me with it, make my life a living hell. But I’ve completely let them into the inner workings of my mind and I trust that they won’t betray that.
Is it someone to chill with and enjoy one on one company? No it’s not. I love hanging in groups with my mates but I prefer hanging one on one for a more intimate experience. It’s not romantic. (and when I’m chilling with a dude it is definitley not gay).
Soooo what is it?
Is it someone to hold hands with? Kiss? Make out with? Have sex with?
Here’s where the point of the story comes.
There is nothing that I can think of that separates a good friendship from a relationship apart from these four things. The four things I could never do with my best friend but I could do with my girlfriend or wife.
So that brings us back to the main premise, Why do people want a relationship?
Is it for these four things, cos if it is than that just seems wrong to look for a relationship if that is a (if not, thee) motive for it.
Being a Christian I won’t be going out looking for a random hook up or a one night stand anytime soon. You might be thinking now that I’m some type of legalistic, close minded, bible bashing twat and you might be tuning out right now. In my view it is not against my “religion” to have pre marital sex and all that jazz. I can do anything that I damn well please, the bible to me is a set of guidelines on how to live, not a set of rules never to be broken.
“Looking at it one way, you could say, “Anything goes. Because of God’s immense generosity and grace, we don’t have to dissect and scrutinize every action to see if it will pass muster.” But the point is not to just get by. (1 Corinthians 10:23 MSG)”
I don’t HAVE to believe these things. I don’t HAVE to keep sex for marriage. I CHOOSE to.

I can’t help but think that some Christians have the wrong idea about these things. It seems that non Christians have it right in this area.
Many non Christians would go out looking for random hook ups and one night stands to fill whatever relationship void they think they’re missing.
Most Christians can’t do that though. They have different views. Some of them think they flee from the temptation. But sadly that same void might still be there. So instead, many of them go looking for relationships.
I reckon it’s safe to say that most (if not everyone) wants sex, Christians included. (insert ‘sexualization of everything’ rant here)
Since many Christians choose not to have sex until they are married it could be said that sex plays a massive factor on marriage. And going further down the line it could be said that marriage plays a massive factor in relationships between Christians. One would hope so or it’s sorta wasting time for both parties if you don’t want anything serious.
With that train of thought I can’t help but question the intent of many Christians who go looking for a relationship. I can’t help but think that they are infatuated by the idea of relationships because it leads to marriage which in turn leads to sex.
Compare the factors that influence marriage for Christians and non Christians. Even if people don’t plan it, sex may be a reason to rush into a marriage. Non Christians may have already eliminated that factor of sex from influencing their decision to get married.
Going to one extreme you could say that, there are many examples in the world where the meaning of marriage and sex has lost it’s way. But if many Christians are going into relationships So they can get married, So they can have sex, than what is the use. The sentiment of marriage is dead. The sentiment of sex is dead. Might as well go hit a club tonight and find a girl to have sex with for sport.
Take in mind that is going to one extreme.

I’m not saying you have to agree with what I have been saying. I’m not saying I’m right. It’s my blog. I’ll post on it what is on my mind and these things are on my mind.
If you do agree, partially or completely than I’ll take you back to the main point of this post.
I believe that Non-Christians have a more genuine marriage than some Christians.
Not saying all, not generalizing anything. Just a thought.

Non Christians may have less to consider when going in to a marriage. Less things influencing their minds. Less things having a stake in their actions.
In this way they may be more pure with their motives to get married. I can’t help but think that they would have more genuine love.
Christians may have more to consider when looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife. Even if it is just this one area of sex that is added to their pool of reasons to marry, that is still a large factor that influences the intent of getting married.
It’s perfectly acceptable for non Christians to stay in long term de facto relationships. They might not feel as much pressure to get married than Christians.
So the choice to get married when it’s acceptable to stay in a de facto relationship must be a decision influenced by Love.

You may notice that I have been using terms like “they may”, “they might” and “they could” instead of “they do”, “they should”, “they are”. I’m not generalizing anything. It’s a lot more than just Christian, Non Christian views and beliefs. It’s different for each person. It’s general views not personal beliefs that are being questioned here. I mean no disrespect to anyone reading this. It’s just my thoughts.

For me -
I would prefer not looking for a girlfriend. God will bring the right girl in good time.
I would rather have pre marital sex to get it out of the way so that it doesn’t influence my reasons to get married. I would rather have a more genuine intent for getting married. I would rather cut out a major influencing factor in a lifetime decision so that my intentions would be less cloudy.
Not saying I will. Just a thought.
I would rather not have to choose. But if the ultimatum was given,
I would rather kill the sentiment of sex than kill the sentiment of marriage.
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To read my partner in crimes’ post click the link